Ideal Average Day Video Transcript
I just wanted to spend a couple minutes with you today talking about something that is really important to me, that has been a guiding light for me over the last couple years as we've grown this thing called 24toDouble .
This morning, I was actually having breakfast with a friend of mine, and we started talking through this exercise that I was asking him to do, that he had just completed called the Average Ideal Day exercise. I didn't come up with this. In fact, I don't remember where I got it from, but I've done this exercise over the last couple years several times just to really make sure that I'm moving in the direction of the desires of my heart, the things that God has put on my heart to do.
A Written Document For Decision Making
I wanted to make sure that I had a written document for decision-making to do that. Today, I'm going to spend just a couple of minutes walking you through this exercise, because what I'd love to have you to do is spend more time working on this exercise than hearing me talk about it. I'm going to drive through this thing really quickly. It's not rocket science, but I want you to get your mind around what it is that we're doing, which is to define your ideal average day/average week. It's good to start with a day and then look at some of the things you might want to do over a week.
Pastor: Define Your Ideal Average Day
The reason it's average is because this is not your dream day, where you're doing something crazy or exceptional. This is, you wake up on an average Tuesday, and you go to work. You go into your church, and what do you do? Let's dive into this a little bit. I put this scripture in here,
Psalm 37, “Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.”
I do believe that it's God's desire to have us working in an area that we're passionate about and desiring to be, and having our days match up with the way He wants us to live our lives. I think a lot of you are probably really doing a great job of the delighting yourself in the Lord part, but not really enjoying the desires of your heart part.
Here's how we start this process. First question is, what do I desire in my heart? When you start thinking about where you want to be and what you want to do inside and outside of your work, what does that look like? Just spend a couple of minutes writing down, “What are those desires of my heart?” I think this one part of the exercise will wind up being hugely beneficial for you just to be able to get down on paper some of the things that are churning around in there that you may or may not even be aware of.
Who, What When, Where & Why
The next thing is, what does my ideal average day look like? That's who, what, when, where, and why.
Who: who are you working with? What kind of people do you have around you? Are they people that you enjoy working with? Are they people that have a similar thought process to you, or is their thought process different? That's really important for us in the church world, that we really understand that our desire is to work with God's people or to work with people that are outside of the kingdom of God right now. What is the desire of your heart? Which of those two places do you want to be in? There's nothing wrong with wanting to be in either one of those.
I particularly feel like I'm called to work with you, with pastors. That doesn't bring me into the circles of a lot of people that are non-believers very often. That's just the way that God created me, that's one of the desires of my heart.
What: what is it that you're doing day in and day out? Chances are on an average day right now, you're spending 80 to 90% of your time doing things that drain you. Not to say that you're ever going to get to the point where you're going to spend 100% of your time doing things that you really just feel excited about and energized by. We ought to be moving in the direction of the things that we're passionate about, the ministries that we're called to, and the actions that we're called to be in, and not doing the things that take energy out of us. If you do that long enough, you'll wind up opting out of ministry altogether.
When: when is a good question to ask. When do you get up? What do you do in the morning before you get going? I'm literally talking about, your average ideal day is, “My eyes open at this time. The first thing I do is this, and then I get up and do this. Maybe I exercise, and then I spend time with the Lord, then I do this. I take my kids to school.” Whatever it is, really having a thorough outline of what that ideal average day is, because it does become the filter for future ministry decision-making. If you've got this filtered, down the road you can look back and say, “I am going to do this, or not doing that,” based on this filter.
What does my average ideal week look like? There will be some things that you would put into your week that would say, “In an average week, I would love to do this, but I don't want to do that every day, or I won't have the opportunity,” so making sure that you fit some things under that weekly thing that don't necessarily fit under the every day average day thing. The next question is, what will my life look like in ten years? Begin to get a vision for yourself.
The Bible says that without vision, the people perish. As the leader of your organization, you need to know not only where your organization is going, but where you're going, and not just spiritually, but from a pr standpoint. What do I want my ministry to look like? Is my ministry contained to inside the church? That's an unbelievable call if it is, and for most of you, it's that way. Maybe there's a book in you that you want to write. In ten years, you want to have that book out. What is it that you want to do, see, have, whatever it is, in ten years, and begin to put some of that information down on paper so that you, you, pastor, understand the desires of your heart, maybe in a way that nobody else around you does.
“What advice would the ten year older version of me have for me today?”
That's what leaders do, is they understand things at the next level so that they can bring people up to that. This is a great question, this next one, and I threw this one in here because this question really impacted my decision to leave a cushy consulting job with churches and start this thing we call 24toDouble , is when I ask myself, “What advice would the ten year older version of me have for me today?” I did that a couple of years ago, and it was screaming, “Go out and do what God's calling you to do. Build something around the idea of investing in pastors, and not just go out and build churches,” and those kind of things.
Asking that question, the ten year old version of you is much wiser than you are. When you can look out in the future and really put yourself in that frame of mind going, “What am I doing today that ten years from now I'll look back and say, ‘Boy, I really shouldn't have been investing that much time or energy into that thing, or that situation, or this particular area of ministry.'” That ten year older version of yourself can give you some great advice.
What Rituals Do You Need To Put In Place?
The last thing I want you to dive into just a little bit in this, because what we're trying to do now is build the filter, just at the end of this, answer this question, what rituals do you need to put in place, what rituals do you need to create to make this ideal average day happen? The big question I would ask you here as you're dealing with this is, what do you need to say no to in order to live out your average ideal day? You don't flip the switch and make this happen.
Again, as I've said before in the video, what we're trying to do is build a filter for future ministry decision-making as it relates to your life, building that filter so that down the road, you can say, “Yep, this absolutely lines up with what I feel like God is calling me to do,” or, “Nope, this does not line up with that, but here's what I'm going to do. I'm going to pray for you. I'm going to give you support in you going and doing this thing.” When somebody brings you an idea, you can qualify or disqualify it immediately.
Okay, go ahead and get to work on that. If you have any questions or feedback, let me know. I would love to hear from you. This is one of those things that has the potential to really impact your quality of life in the next couple of years. Okay, Richard Chancy with 24toDouble signing out. Thanks for being with us. If you have any questions, just let me know. Thanks.